Shifting Your Reality: What to Do After Leaving the Infinite Man Summit.
I’ve just finished attending the third annual-ish [<i>Infinite Man Summit</i>](http://infinitemansummit.com) in Lisbon, Portugal: A world-bending event where high level speakers and teachers come together to share their wisdom with a group of men – a brotherhood – that are seeking an upgrade in their reality, whether that be in relationships, business, health, or spiritual awakening.
Three of these events have been hosted so far, and I've attended all of them; They're fucking life changing.
However, there's a catch: They're only life changing if you commit to put in the effort and make postitive changes when it's all over.
There are some beautiful success stories; I met dudes who left last years event, quit their shitty jobs, and started pursuing their passion. Some of them started YouTube channels, gained massive wealth from crypto, found inner peace, and took huge steps towards their vision of a bright future. Whatever it was for them, they did it by utilising the information they'd gained from attending.
When you're there, the energy is incredible. You're surrounded by happy and inspired people who're in pursuit of a better life. You feel on top of the world, you start making plans to do amazing things and the universe aligns before you with intense clarity. This feeling is going to last forever.
And then you go home. A few days pass, you go back to your job, go out for a beer with your mates who don't quite get it, watch a few videos before bed, maybe some porn. The event starts to fade into memory, and before you know it: "Oh. Shit... It's gone."
This is a mistake I've made time and again, and it's easy to do. But it's also easy to mitigate if you focus.
These guys with the success stories, what do thay all have in common? They all started <i>right away.</i>
When you leave the event, you have about a three to ten day window of riding that sweet high before you start running out of gas. Use it wisely.
Drop your bags, hop off the Bullshit Bus, and get on the connecting express service to that life you've always stopped short at <i>considering</i> having.
Something that's been brought up a few times at the events is the utility of "mini habits".
Yeah, you've got to start now, but take it easy. If you try to change up your daily routine by doing a million new things at once, you're going to burn out and give up. Pick something that you want to do, and do it lightly: Start off by meditating for five minutes each morning instead of twenty, or commit to writing two lines each day rather than trying for a whole page.
As you take small steps you can build on them gradually and add new mini habits to your routine. You'll also find that you often do a lot more than you intended, and it's incredibly satisfying.
This method is far more achievable, because you're not going into it with unrealisitic and overwhelming expectations.
<b>Change Your Environment</b>
When you go home and integrate back into the life that you had before this beautiful shift in perspective, of course you're going to start slipping into old patterns.
Your subconscious will associate environments with habits and routines, both in the things that you do and the way that you think and perceive the world. Being in a new place is a brilliant tool for creating mental shifts, which is part of the reason why people come back from extensive travelling stating how much it "changed them".
See how those people are after they've been back for a year.
If you can, move city. Hell, move country. Put yourself in a new place with a clean slate. If you can't do that, try cleaning your space and moving some things around. Spend some time in new areas during the day. Change everything and anything you can about your environment and it'll help reset your programming.
<b>Involve Yourself in a Community</b>
On the subject of environment and mindset, part of the reason these events work so well is the community. If everyone there was scattered and moving in completely different directions, it wouldn't work.
Fact is, you've got a massive network of individuals who – although they may not have the same goals – are certainly all heading in a positive direction. Make friends, change who you hang out with and surround yourself with folks that will keep you on the right track. It can be painful to let people in your life go, but if they're keeping you away from what you need to do then it's not a positive relationship.
Something great about having a tight community is that you have people that can hold you accountable. Give someone you trust a hundred schmeckles and tell them they can only give it back once you've done what you set out to do.
Better yet, get yourself in the [<i>Infinite Man Academy</i>](http://infinitemansummit.com/academy/), join the Facebook group, and start an accountability thread. They'll support you, and with that many people looking on it gives you a little incentive not to slip up.
<b>Go Over the Material</b>
If you didn't bring a notepad to the event, you fucked up. Take the opportunity to go over everything that you found valuable and soak it in. It's an interesting dynamic of our learning that every time you revisit material, there's always a new piece of information or perspective that can be taken from it. I still look over my notebook from three years ago and have a moment of "why have I not been applying this".
<b>Take a Course</b>
I can't attest to anyone else, but I've met <i>dozens</i> of dudes who've attended one of the [courses](http://infinitemansummit.com/products/) offered by Sasha and the gang, and I've never heard a single complaint.
Every single time it's: "Holy fuck, that completely changed my life. I wish I'd taken the jump and done it sooner."
Working on yourself by yourself is great, but if you want the fast track for success in a certain area of your life – be it releasing trauma, getting good with girls, overcoming fears and inadequacies – don't be afraid to seek professional help. It's what these people are here for, it's what they do, and they do it well.
<b>A Little Extra - Don't Hide From How You Feel</b>
I actually wrote a separate, more in depth article about this [here](https://steemit.com/self-help/@bencampbell/6nvthd-dealing-with-the-feeling-navigating-emotional-pain), where I talk about how to work through intense emotions and not close off when you feel them.
I think that this is super important, and it's something that I and others who've attented these events have experienced more than once.
Whenever you're doing any kind of personal development and healing work, you can uncover some deep and overwhelming emotional trauma. <i>Everyone has some,</i> don't close off to it. Feel it, accept it and yourself without judgement, and move through it.
These things are there for you to feel them, they have a purpose. When you ignore them rather than letting them flow it creates blocks that can be damaging and restricting down the line.
As bit of an Infinite Man veteran (I think "creepy" was how Sasha described my consistant attendance), these would be my quick tips for making the most out of the experience when it's over. Don't get caught up in the "this will last forever", because it won't. You have to take action.
And don't beat yourself up if you slip, God knows I have. No one is perfect. Accept it, forgive yourself, and get right back in the flow.
I hope that this has been a service to anyone that needed it, and that you find this information valuable. Don't hesitate to reach out to me if you have any thoughts or criticisms. I have a [Facebook group](https://www.facebook.com/groups/282681752142240/) for personal development and my writing. I'm also on [Steemit](https://steemit.com/@bencampbell).
All the best and much love.